Senior Living

As we grow we learn how to read, to write, drive a car, and how to vote. We never learn how to be old. We never think of being old. And yet, becoming old is a natural turn of events in every person's lives.

We all know we will,unless we die, get old! We look at our parents family albums and see old people, and we skip to the next picture, and look at the younger ones, playing on the beach, or riding their bikes.

Why do we skip the old people, who are sitting on their chairs, watching instead of participating. Is it because we do not want to think of ourselves looking like that? Or is just that we are really not concerned as to why they are sitting, we do not care, and we do not want to know.

Closing our eyes to the needs of the old, does not make the fact that each and everyone of us WILL get old!! The only alternative is to die!!! There are no choices in between.

So instead of ignoring the old, it is important to prepare ourselves to the possible limitations that aging brings, the loneliness that might overtake us, when a spouse dies, and we have to face each day, month, year alone.

When we think of the words Senior Years, medicare comes to mind. When we think of the words Senior Years, we should think of retirement, finances, remaining independent, living on a fixed income, transportation, cooking and buying for one, feet hurting, bones not flexible as before, problems getting up from a chair.

This is what we should be concerned about, but we do not think of this, until we are actually old, and find that not only are our funds limited, but our range of motion is also limited.

But in today's world, most of the young only want to think of ''Lets Buy a New Car''

Wait...they will get old also. It is inevitable and a Fact of Life.

Say I Love You For Many Different Reasons

People are so afraid to express their feelings, without being misunderstood. Expressions of love, can have many meanings, and said in many different ways. We have become a people that fear revealing their inner thoughts, for fear of being sued, or misunderstood, that they bottle their feelings or use other words to express what they feel as loving someone, without the words being misunderstood as being a love shared by two lovers.

We have a teacher in school that has gone out of their way, to help us learn. They have spent time after school, tutoring, explaining and creating a way for us to remember. We feel a gratitude to them for without their help, we would have failed the test. We feel a love for them, a special love that can only be felt between you two, and for this moment.

A doctor has given you bad news. An xray shows cancer, and he is concerned,as much as you are. You two hug,holding each in concern and pain. Another day, another xray, shows a mistake in the first one. There is no cancer only an error in the reading. Once again, you hug the doctor and he hugs back, this time in relief, and you say, "I love you', {for helping me and because you were concerned}.

Feelings pop up between friends, from enjoying each other, and helping each other, and confiding in each other. The feeling you have and want to say, in a most natural way, is "I love you", {because you are my friend,} or {you make me smile}, or {you make me happy}. But you do not, for fear it might be taken as a forbidden type of love.

Why does the word I love you, have to be a forbidden word. Why does it always have to change into a different connotation, other than what we actually feel, so that we fear using it, and instead change the word 'love' to 'like'....The word Love has depth, compassion, caring, and can be used in so many ways, that it is a sin to stifle it, or change it from a deep feeling, a feeling that warms us just to say it, and that pleases us just to hear it said. While the word 'like' is simple, and is emotionless.

We love our pets, our homes, our cars, ice-cream, chocolate, cakes, dancing, a particular movie, and we say it as such. 'I love chocolate'. So then why can we not use the same words and say it to a particular person that we have deep feelings for, that go beyond 'like', and are not as strong as when you tell you lover, your partner, or your spouse, ' I love you"